I’m really glad to hear you are still on 2 wheels and by the sounds of it, enjoying yourself. It only gets better as your confidence grows.
I will add one observation to the looking through the curve thing. Only recently did I realize that while I’ve always been looking through the curve I couldn’t honestly say that’s where all my attention was. I only noticed this when I started giving 100% attention to where I was looking. Things suddenly became a lot smoother and easier as I had plenty of time to pick my line and speed. I guess it takes time to trust in your decisions to NOT be glancing directly in front of you. At least it did for me. It was another of those a-ha moments that makes this all so fun.
I still have not ridden much on gravel and get nervous when I do. But the folks over at advrider do this all the time (dual sport crowd) so I read what they have to say with interest. It may help you out to.
This thread talks about hitting gravel in corners and what to do (basically ignore it).
And this one talks about what bikes are better on real gravel roads. It quickly becomes obvious the rider is the most imortant factor and how you should be riding these roads.
Hope these help.